Wednesday, September 15, 2010

The Freaking Out Thing

So last night I had plans with my friend Julie to go out for some wine & also to go to a preview of a play at the local Playhouse. Cheap date as Tuesdays are half price wine night & the play was free! Whohooo!

Because the last time I left August (for one hour to go to the grocery store) was a disaster because August wouldn't take formula, I pumped for a couple of days to make a stockpile for Tuesday night. I wouldn't let him down this time!

I met Julie around 6pm and by 6:45 my phone was ringing & I was receiving frantic texts about August freaking out. He started screaming around 6:07 (not that he was paying attention) & wouldn't stop. I was in the restaurant & couldn't hear so I didn't answer the phone but I knew how it would go.

Once outside I called Steve & heard the mayhem in the background. Part of me just wanted him to figure it out & handle it but the other part of me knows how stressful it is & how non-stop screaming can make you go crazy.

I rushed home (I wasn't too far from the house) & quickly nursed August til he calmed down. He WOULD NOT take a bottle for Steve. He would take a bottle from ME but not from Steve. Great. Steve had called his Mom to come over & she got there when I was there. He wouldn't take a bottle for her either.

Finally he was calm enough & I raced back to the theater (the show was great, by the way!!)...

When I got home Steve, his Mom & his brother were all at our house. August apparently cried & carried on for 90% of the night. Awesome. Apparently (!) we need to teach August that it's okay to be fed by someone else.

I feel bad. I mean, I feel bad that it was a stressful night last night. I feel bad that I missed out on my 'night off,' I feel bad that the nursing is going so well & it's screwing up any chance of me taking a break.

I guess I will continue to pump & we'll start having Steve fed August at least one bottle every evening so he gets used to it. I hope that works.

5 comments:

Kate said...

Awww. I'm sorry about all of it too. I think my sister in law had Dan feed the baby every night from a bottle from almost the beginning for this very reason. And he would never take it if she was even remotely close. He wanted the GOODS. But if she stayed out of the room, he would scream and carry on, but would finally take it as his only option. Sigh.

michelle said...

i know when amy would nurse/pump - especially at night christophe would get up with her and feed soren a bottle while she pumped. not fun having two people up especially when at least one (they were both working) is working but that might help him get used it.

then again i have no experience in this sort of thing..yet...

Meigan said...

Oh, what a horrible night! I am so sorry!

Sarita said...

Poor Steve, and poor you. It is especially hard when you've got another little one with you. Maybe next time you try, you could take Dahlia out and Steve can steel himself to wait August out until he gives in and takes the bottle?

feisty said...

oh, C. i'm so sorry he won't take milk from anyone else. but i'm so proud of you for making breastfeeding work so well. i'm so happy about that for you guys....i suppose you have to be careful what you wish for, eh?

i like michelle's idea- what if steve got up for a night feeding, and gave august what you pumped? slow and steady, KEEP TRYING, and it will work. i promise! he will become a switch-hitter, just keep trying. you guys are great parents and august will come around...