Thursday, May 14, 2009

Co-Sleeping

After 2 hours of FULL OUT HARD CORD BLOOD VESSEL BURSTING (well, you'd think!) SCREAMING last night (this from 8-10pm). I gave up. I went upstairs, picked her up, she calmed down. I went into our bedroom. Laid her on our bed and she didn't make a peep. She was awake. But just laid there. I went downstairs to get my water & my book, told Steve I was going to bed (with Dahlia) and got ready for bed. She was still awake, but just sitting there. SO TIRED. I laid down with her and she was asleep within minutes.

Then I got up and read my book for a while in her room, because I cannot go to sleep without reading! Well, I could but....

I was tempted to crawl into her crib to sleep! But figured that wouldn't be too comfy.

I returned to my bed and she slept. All. Night. In fact she slept til 8:30 this morning!!

I do not want to co-sleep with her every night. I do not want to go down this path of bending to whatever she wants. But I'm at wit's end with the sleeping thing. She has fought bedtime every night for almost a week. And she puts up a hell of a fight! She continues to wake up in the night and is inconsolable.

CIO didn't work (doesn't, we tried last night from 8-10); putting her down awake doesn't work. I don't know what else to do!

6 comments:

donna said...

Maybe she's just needing some extra comfort right now. Can you try putting her crib or pack and play in your room for a few weeks? Would that provide her with a sense of you being there but not having to co-sleep?

I'm sorry. I know it sucks. But it will end.

We're having sleep issues here too. You aren't alone.

feisty said...

rewards for sleeping in her own crib? My sis-in-law made a poster board chart with stickers to reward her little girl for sleeping in her own bed. after so many stickers, that she got to put on the poster, there was prize/treat (time with mom/dad, ice cream, toy)

Sarita said...

Whatever you can do to keep yourself sane right now. While we have been lucky enough to have it pretty easy, we've learned that at least with Relia, the patterns we set up are not that hard to change at this age. Yes, there is a bit of resistance, but if we stick to our guns she goes along with it pretty soon.

One night I let her come down stairs and fall asleep on me, and the next she is perfectly happy to climb into her crib. The next night, she screams and nothing is good, ever, until she conks out. Things are constantly changing with or without our best intentions.

I don't think you need to worry about setting up a cosleeping problem right now. She'll probably change what she needs in two weeks anyway.

-Peder said...

Very sorry Carrie.

Kate said...

I don't know if you read So the Fish Said, but I'm pretty sure they're totally hip on co-sleeping - like all the time. And they don't seem to think there's anything wrong with it. To each his own. And to each her sanity.

Cello Mama said...

I agree with Sarah. Dahlia is a bit too young to be totally screwing yourself later. My philosophy is to do what you need to do. It will get easier to deal with when Dahlia is talking and can communicate.

Of course, Kate still comes in to sleep on our floor around 2AM every night, so don't listen to me.